The Bonus Round

On occasion, Steve Kaycee has had problems in blogging about things in timely fashion, such as his reaction to the 2019 World Series matchup between the Washington Nationals and Houston Astros.

But after one of Art Infliction’s most innovative minds has come up with a way to never allow such problems to ever happen again via this page. Especially when Extra Sessions keeps getting overbooked with constant entries.

And with that being said, the problem has been solved yet again, as part two of Steve’s entry about his viewpoints of online courtship has moved here from the Kaycee And The Forefront page.

Check it out and enjoy!

“Savagery Against Online Courtship, Part 2”

Previously in Kaycee And The Forefront, I mentioned my belief in what constitutes being “with” someone who might like me as more than a friend, with that belief being A) I’m not “with” someone that might be interested in me as more than a friend until we meet in person and B) simple in person interaction with someone that MIGHT like me as more than a friend isn’t exempt from that belief. So in other words if you’re a female bartender that’s flirting with me while on duty, then I don’t count that as you “being with me”.

Of course, I ended last week’s entry on a cliffhanger, as Dan Savage’s interview about online courtship had awoken another thing within me. However, I left it on that cliffhanger, as I felt the other thing that was awoken within me wouldn’t fit naturally into last week’s entry, thus this second part.

Alright, so now that I’ve rehashed last week’s entry, along with explaining why I didn’t include that other thing that was awoken within me, it’s time that I tell you all as such.

You see, the other thing that was awoken within me was that the possibility of someone liking me as more than a friend via online communication can be exciting in that particular arena, only for me to possibly not click with that someone or vice versa, in the event that her and I meet in person. And of course, there’s nothing wrong with that, as how you feel about someone that you met online might not be how you felt about that person 10 months ago.

Now I’ve never gotten to the level of meeting someone who might like me as more than a friend via online communication in person, because A) I’m workaholic to the point that I need to keep doing what I’m doing to have momentum towards my career goals and B) I’m too flighty about my personal life as is, meaning I’ll want to date someone one day and not to want to date anyone at all the following day.

However, I’ve been in situations (two to be exact) where the lack of clicking happened well before the meeting in person, as the constant expectations of replying to text messages were on a level of being too needy. And since I needed my space, along with constant disruption occurring during the very early stages of the movie reviewing aspect of my career, I decided to put them both in the friend zone, only to get backlash from the mutual friends that I had with them in those two scenarios (August 2007, April 2010). But given that each situation was of too much neediness to the point that each situation was becoming subtraction by addition in my life, I decided to do what was best for me, backlash be damned. And while no one likes rejection, I at least didn’t set anything in stone for when either of them could meet me in person, along with the fact that no one had to travel to the other to find out that they weren’t going to click. And with the latter part of that being said, I stayed one step ahead well before I heard what Savage said about not clicking and did so by 13 and 10 years, respectively. However, I also didn’t look at those two situations that way until I saw the interview that Bill Maher had with him. Plus, that interview reinforced the realistic way in how I approach my personal life, which is not making my relationship status a life or death situation, regardless.

I’ve spoken at length about my personal in various entries since I resumed blogging exactly 99 weeks ago yesterday. And while some of those lengths might seem rehashed between then and now, they also look at things from different angles, with me seeing online courtship the way that I do now being the angle this time around.

Of course I’m not telling anyone to adopt my exact way of thinking. However, I do encourage those of you that are reading this to at least be honest with yourselves about your personal lives because if you all do, then that type of honesty could possibly bring out things that you all had no idea existed from within, along with possibly giving yourselves a very happy existence. And if a happy existence is what you want, then do whatever you see fit in getting that type of existence. Keep at it!