Single And Not About To Mingle

**Note: This entry contains some graphic language. Discretion is advised.

I look at the world today, and I see all of these single mothers and fathers, and I can’t help but ask myself, “What’s their story?”

But you see that’s what’s wrong with a lot of people today. They look and see a single parent, and go straight to judging. They never stop and ask themselves what could have happened. And those that do give the eyes that say “It’s your own damn fault for having sex.” I don’t know, maybe I’m just being overly sensitive or something, but when I get judged for being a single mom, it just makes me want to have a temper tantrum like a three -year old.

Yeah, I’m a single mom and yeah, my story is fucked up, but does anyone care to ask me about it? Not so much. Some people are single parents due to a death, others are single parents due to jail or distance, while others are single parents by choice.

The worst I think are the ones who are single parents because even though that both parents are alive. one chooses not to be involved for some selfish reason like a girlfriend or a boyfriend, or a husband or a wife. They choose a significant other over their own child or children, and I just don’t get it.

How can someone make a child, but then deny that child and not want to be there? How can they still deny that child even when DNA proves they are the biological parent? How can a person choose another person over their own child? It baffles me. It’s like they are cheating on their kid or kids that they have never met with a significant other. And frankly, it makes me sick to my stomach to think about all of these kids out there growing up without a parent, just because they choose to have things be that way.

I don’t think someone should try to make a kid if they are just going to abandon said child the second a nice piece of ass or a nice dick walks by. You make a kid and you take care of that kid, plain and simple. It is black and white, or it should be, but no. It is a part of life and life is nothing but the messy bits. You cannot avoid them, hide behind them or pretend that they don’t exist.

Life is a give and take, and it seems that those who make kids are giving them life but the ones who choose to walk away are taking away that child’s right to know both parents and to have a relationship with both parents.

And to make matters worse, no one really knows how hard it is to be a single parent unless they are one. And even then, there are different levels of single parents. Some have a lot of help, some have a little help, and then there are those who have no help.

Some people sacrifice everything to give their child or children the best lives possible and some do it without financial help or emotional support.

People need to stop judging a single parent based on what they SEE and start finding out their story. Every person has a story and some are worse than others, but until you know someone’s story, you’ll spend your whole life judging them instead of knowing them. By judging them and not knowing them, you could be missing out on someone really great.